What Advice Would You Give Your 14 year old self?

February 9, 2017


What advice would you give your 14 year old self?

Yesterday I went to a really fun event that my friend Katie hosted with Glitter Guide. Lately, I’ve been passing on events because it’s just too hard to go with Augustine and I’m trying to keep him on a schedule if I can. {It’s made such a difference in his sleep but that’s a topic for another post!} I went to this event though because Katie always puts together an inspiring group of women and whenever I leave her events I feel more connected to other LA creatives, and I also feel more inspired. Something fun that Katie does at her events is play a game of Conversation where everyone is given a question to think about and answer. My question was, “What advice would you give your 14-year-old self?” I feel like I knew my answer immediately.

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At 14, I was a freshman in high school playing soccer and making new friends. I was just starting my high school experience, and it was my first time at a co-ed school since elementary school {I went to an all-girls middle school for 6th, 7th, and 8th}. I was a good student but probably thought about my high school crush more than I needed to. If I could go back in time, or just talk to my 14-year-old self, I would say, “Girl, don’t even think about boys right now. Focus on school, build lasting memories with your friends, be a little less sassy with your parents, and gain experiences that can help you decide what you want to be one day. Don’t worry about being popular or impressing your crush. But if it helps, though, he’ll like you back Senior year!”

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I think my 14-year-old self would be pretty glad with how things turned out, though. I’m still best friends with the same three girls {love you Lizzie, Hanna, and Pauline}, and somehow I found my way to where I needed to be. I don’t think I was ever mean to anyone but there were definitely times where I could have reached out and befriended people who were having a harder time. I would want to tell my younger self to be as loving and caring as possible to others because high school is full of challenges that often go beyond the classroom. Everyone has their own insecurities, even the popular kids. I’d want to encourage myself to be real, confident and genuine. These would be good reminders for me at 14, but especially today!

What would you tell your 14-year-old self? I’d love to hear!


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  • м♥ м

    At 14 I started dating my bf (we are 25 and 24 now) so I would tell myself I was doing a great job getting to know him a little better and starting things slow… And I would tell myself I don’t need to be so insecure about my body because we are all made of flaws and those are just part of the essence of who we are. Acceptace and more self love would be the key to be ever happier on my younger years 🙂

    • I couldn’t agree more! I wish I had more acceptance and self love as well. That’s so important!!

  • natalie rumore

    Oh my, it’s so crazy to think back to 14! And no, you were never mean! Always sweet and fun to be around 🙂

    • aw thanks Natalie!! It seems like ages ago doesn’t it? Definitely miss some of those times!!

  • Such a cute outfit! And I would definitely tell myself to appreciate my parents more.

    xo, Carey

  • Natalie Githu

    Love love love the outfit!
    I would basically tell myself to take care of myself, be kind to everyone and most importantly be kind to myself. Be more expressive and more open to new things. And most importantly to stop being irritating!

    I absolutely love this post

    • thanks so much Natalie! Love your advice. I think being kind to our 14 year old selves is super important!

  • Huong Vo

    I would tell my 14 year old self to not worry about what other people think, just do my thing, learn more outside of the classroom and focus on giving back. I would tell myself to start a blog back then too because I loved to dress up in high school. I also would’ve advised myself that I can do whatever I put my mind to and that if there isn’t a job I like that exists, to create one! I’d also tell myself to spend more time with family and not worry so much about the future because life is short and to make the most of the time I have.

    • I love the idea of creating your dream job! So inspiring! All your tips are things that I would tell myself too!

  • Mine would be so similar! Don’t worry about boys- just be yourself and have fun with your friends!

  • I love reading more personal posts like these! I would tell my 14 year old self to nurture my passions and not give in to peer pressure. I had a close knit group of friend in Junior High and High School, most of which I still talk to, and I would tell my 14 year old self to spend more quality time with them 🙂 http://www.chasingbelle.com

    • Yes love the nurture your passions tip! I would do the same!

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