White Babydoll Top + Current Thoughts

August 10, 2017

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It’s been a crazy week! I feel like I haven’t been posting as much to Instagram lately because I’ve been so consumed by this move. Wow has it been overwhelming, especially with Augustine. Sharing some of what’s been going through my head the past several days.

loving this boat hat with any outfit this summer - M Loves M @marmar

This outfit has been one of my faves lately though. I LOVE this babydoll top {the detail is even prettier in person!} and paired with these affordable jeans {under $100} and my mules, it’s such an easy look!

I mean this detail… I love!

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top . jeans  {under $100} . mules  {you all know I love these!} . old hat from J.Crew {similar style} . bag {one of my favorite NSale purchases}. earrings . watch {more affordable option} . bracelet . sunglasseslipstick in Racy Reveal .

 

CURRENT THOUGHTS RUNNING THROUGH MY HEAD …

  • MOVING – They say moving is one of the most stressful life events, and it’s so true. I don’t know how some people do it with kids that are walking/running around, not to mention multiple kids. It’s been tough for us. There is stuff everywhere so Augustine wants to get into it all, and only one of us can unpack at a time. Unfortunately, I have a feeling we’ll be living in boxes for awhile. My hope though is to get the downstairs all together, and baby-proofed, as soon as possible. Maybe by this weekend?? But besides the process of unboxing, we’re also settling into a new neighborhood and a new town. It feels like a big change for us but I’m loving it so far. I can’t wait to explore and find our new favorite spots. Although what were the first 5 businesses I looked up? Target, Trader Joes, Peet’s Coffee, Mendocino Farms & Anthropologie. Yep, those are my priorities!

 

  • GETTING IN SHAPE – I mentioned this in my post on Monday, but I’m really feeling a need to get back into shape. While I do have some baby weight to lose, I also think working out would make me feel a lot better and give me more energy. The question is, how the heck do I fit this in?! Which brings me to my next thought:

 

  • STRUGGLING FOR ME TIME- I really wish there were more hours in the day. While it seems like 24 hours is a lot, my life is 100% about Augustine. When I’m not with him, I’m usually working, or taking care of basic life tasks like cooking/eating/showering. I need to figure out a way to find more balance in my life so that I can fit in my mom role with work, time for Matthew, and very importantly, time for myself. It’s such a struggle and I feel like I’m always looking for advice/tips on this topic. If any of you have suggestions for finding balance or fitting in me time, I’m all ears!

 

  • REALIZING MY LIMITATIONS- Over the past few months, I’ve fallen back in love with blogging. I don’t know if it’s because I haven’t had the same amount of time that I had for it before Augustine, but I rediscovered how much I love it. I’m constantly brainstorming post ideas, and thinking of functions to add to my site {have you checked out the Main Menu Dropdowns??}, and looking forward to connecting with you all through emails and messages. The too bad part is that I don’t physically have the time to do all these things I want to do. It can be frustrating because at 11 am I’ll have this great idea for a post, but by the time I get Augustine down for sleep it’s 8 pm and I’m starving for dinner, haven’t caught up with Matthew, and the energy disappears. I end up staying late working on the tasks I have to work on, that  I don’t have as much time to put towards these other things. I have to understand my limitations and figure out a way to make it work. Maybe that means I cut back to 3 posts a week so I can give myself more time to devote to these other things, or even just to have a night off to enjoy dinner with Matthew and get to bed before 1 am. I’m definitely struggling with learning to say no, but that’s a whole other story.

 

  • MISSING FRIENDS THAT HAVE MOVED- Not only have I moved cities but so have two of my best friends. Lizzie moved to Philadelphia and Hanna moved to Houston. Both these girls are a part of my life line and it makes me sad knowing that they’re not just a quick drive away. We’re in separate time zones even! We used to have our monthly girls dinners so now we’re planning on monthly Skype hangout nights. It’s still so important for us to make the time to “see” each other.

Anyway, those are the things that are on my mind this Thursday. I hope you all are having such a great day and thanks for stopping by. If you ever have any thoughts or feedback for me, please leave it below!

xox

photos by Kara Coleen

  • Michelle Joseph

    Aww Mara you have so much on your mind. I hope you’re able to find a way to solve all of these things. It will put your mind at ease. Maybe when you finish packing and setting things up, that will give you a bit more time to yourself. All the best x

    Mich x

  • I am not a mom but my best friend is, she was going through similar struggles. Honestly getting a sitter for a few hours a couple days a week really helped. You don’t have to do it alone, if you can afford it get some help. It will be good for you and your family 🙂 Loving this easy outfit, the pink slides are so cute.

    xo
    Pinksole

    • Thanks Rachelle!! This is a great idea. I definitely need to feel more comfortable asking for help!

  • Rach

    You have a lot going on! I have been struggling to have ‘me’ time now that I am in recovery. So what I was told is dedicate a time during the day for yourself. Some days I’m sure are harder to accomplish, but if you have on the books it makes it seem easier to achieve. I also had to cut back A LOT on what I do. Just slowly integrate more when the time feels right. I think you are doing awesome!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

    • It’s so smart that you’re taking time for yourself Rach! You are incredibly strong and such an inspiration. I love your idea of cutting things out and adding when I feel like the time is right. I need to try that!

    • oh and THANK YOU for your comment!! xox

  • Kelly

    Oh gosh, I can relate to all of these! As for working out, I’ve been doing pilates through blogilates on youtube, which is only 10 minutes a day but you’ll still feel like you got a good workout afterwards! I usually do it during our son’s first nap or before bedtime. It gives me some of that “me” time while still giving me enough time to get a break in afterwards. Hoping it helps! Mom life is tough!!

    http://www.blushandblossoms.com

    • that is such a great idea Kelly!! I’ve heard a lot of about blogilates and I love that it’s so short. I will definitely try. Thank you for sharing !!!

  • Paige Cassandra Flamm

    Flowy white tops for life! That one is gorgeous!

    Paige
    http://thehappyflammily.com

  • Allegra Liu

    Adorable top, love the swingy shape of it. Nice to hear all your thoughts. It is a struggle to find balance and especially down time for yourself. I think cutting down to 3 posts a week will help and maybe once Augustine is older eventually consider having a part time nanny or day care.

    • It’s such a challenge to find balance but I’m going to work on it. Thanks for your encouragement Allegra!!

  • Rachael

    I know how hard it is to find me time with a little one in tow! Do you have family members nearby? I try to do something for myself at least once a week and leave the baby with my mother-in-law for a few hours. Yesterday I got my nails done for the first time since giving birth! Last week I went to a spin class. Even though I often don’t want to leave my little guy, even those small breaks make me feel so much more refreshed and patient.

    • aw I’m so glad you got to go get your nails done! It’s the little things that can be such a luxury. And I agree, the small breaks make you more refreshed and ready to parent. I need to be better about asking for help but this was great encouragement. Thank you Rachael!!

  • I love reading about your life behind the scenes and how your priorities have changed. Also so happy to hear you’ve rediscovered your love of blogging! Looking adorable-I need this entire outfit!

    Heidi || Wishes & Reality

    • thanks heidi!! I love this top so much! Thanks for being so kind over the years!!

  • Kayla

    I loved hearing more about your personal life. I completely relate to the feeling of no me time and being consumed by your baby. Here are my thoughts. Once my daughter was a year and we were done with nursing/pumping (I work full time) I felt like so much time was freed up. So, remember that this phase will be over at some point and he will be more independent. Also, I know I am a better mom when I am filled up with things in addition to being a mom. For me, knitting and reading (alone time) and investing in relationships fill up my cup. It’s ok to ask for help, hire a babysitter, or ask family to help. I know Augustine isn’t a great napper, but when my daughter was a bit older and was content in her crib awake, I sometimes would let her stay in there with a book or toy for a while just to get a bit more of a break. Obviously if he’s screaming this isn’t ideal, but he may be content to just hang out. It’s a safe contained environment, take advantage if you can! Good luck!

    • Melody

      I completely agree. You have to make time for yourself!

      • Thank you so much Melody!! I’m going to work on it!!

    • Thank you so much for this encouragement Kayla! I struggle so hard to find time to not be a mom and not be working but it’s hard because I love both so much. I just wish I had more time to not do anything! Or go to sleep early lol! But you’re right, we’re going through a short period right now and before we know it he’ll be able to play all by himself and probably won’t want me around (wah!) I’m trying to enjoy it now while I can because he’s only little once!! And I think asking for help is definitely something I need to be better at. Thanks for being so sweet and encouraging!

  • Louis Dupond

    Great outfit, from the hat to the mules!

    https://4highheelsfans.wordpress.com/2017/08/09/tuscany-pisa/

  • Natali

    It’s always great to speak up when something is bothering you and sharing it with your readers makes a whole new level of connection and also gives you a good insight into how you could deal with certain issues or to just have somebody to “vent” to who won’t judge and will try to help and be supportive. 🙂 As a mommy who works a lot as self employed and is also writing a blog, I could give you a small piece of advice… Work can wait every now and then. Your kid won’t ever be the same age again, your husband will always be by your side but making time for just you two will be what will keep him reminded of you two being an “intimate unit” and not just parents and partners in running errands and paying bills, if you know what I mean. Also, finding time for yourself only is a MUST do in order to prevent mommy-wife burnout.

    Many kisses to you beautiful Mara, I love your blog, your Insta and your personality in overall. 🙂

    https://lartoffashion.com/perfect-places-with-lovia/

    • Natali thank you thank you thank you!! I really needed to hear this. I couldn’t agree more. Augustine is only little once and I need to savor these moments. And I definitely need to spend more time with just Matthew. Maybe we can see if we can plan a date night this weekend. Thanks for this great reminder!! <3

      • Natali

        Thank you for reading, I’m happy that I could help out with this good piece of advice. 🙂 Many kisses beautiful!

  • Melody

    I feel for you! Maybe put Augustine in a walker with some toys so that you and your husband can unpack! Even if he hates it. Gotta teach him to be a little more independent! 🙂

    • ah you’re so right! That was on my list tonight: research a baby walker!

  • Moving is so so hard, there is no way around it. No matter how much you plan or pack ahead of time, it’s just so stressful. But the good news is that moving eventually ends and then you get to enjoy your new home! Focus on the end goal, you will forget all about the annoyance of moving boxes in no time!

    • Thank you SO much Amanda!! I definitely need to focus on the end goal and see the light at the end of the tunnel. Can’t wait to be moved in and settled! Thanks for this reminder! xox

  • This look combines two of my favorite things…babydoll tops and mules! I don’t actually own a pair of suede mules, but they’ve been on my wish list for the longest time. It’s great to hear about your personal life. My family just moved into a new house a few days ago and the process has definitely been stressful. You’re not alone!

    Mia | http://www.verymuchmia.com

    • yes!! I love babydoll tops and mules too! This pair has been my absolute favorite this summer! Good luck to your family with their move. It’s tough but nice to be in a few space!

  • Cynthia

    Mara, you look lovely as always! I completely agree with you and your thoughts. It’s so hard to find the time to work out, even have a me-time. I loved reading others’ advices and suggestions and found some great reminders that me-time and quality time with Matthew are important. But also know that you are a super, wonderful momma to Augustine and an awesome wife to Matthew, and a wonderful friend. What you’ve been doing is seriously something that I look up to because it must have been so tough, but you do it so gracefully. Keeping a blog with great, solid posts and still able to manage everything! Oh let’s not forget how lovely you are to your readers and followers. I hope you find a balance in everything, especially yourself, because if you are happy and peaceful in mind, everybody around you and whatever you’re working on will also be great!

    • aw Cynthia! I appreciate you so much. Thank you for leaving these positive and inspiring words. They’re really just what I needed to hear. Thank you thank you!!

  • Shantall Melody Franco

    Being a mom, wife and still making time for yourself is very difficult. I try to take time for myself when I can like getting my nails done 💅, do my best to go once a month. My husband and I try to also do a date night once a month too. My mom or mother n law usually watch the girls. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, we can’t do it alone, I learned that with my first daughter. In regards to unpacking just do what you can it will get done eventually. I know it’s overwhelming at times but you can do it 😘

    • Thanks so much Shantall! I love your monthly date night idea. Matthew and I desperately need to do that. Our date nights have been few and far between 🙁 I hope you can do some fun things this week to treat yourself for your bday!! <3

      • Shantall Melody Franco

        Thank you, hopefully we can go to lunch or dinner. 😊

  • That top is adorable! I’m loving it!
    I’m not a mommy yet- but I have friends who say the same thing! They have a hard time finding balance & time for their spouse & time for themselves. It’s so difficult- I can only imagine. I mean, I know one day I’m going to be in the same situation! I always wondered how my mother did it- with 4 kids to raise!

    xo

    krystalinthecity.com

    • oh my gosh your mom is a super mom!! So amazing! She’ll give you all the best tips!

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