How Life Has Changed For Us Since Having a Baby

March 27, 2017


How Life is Different for Us with a Baby

Everyone says your life will be different once you have a baby and while you know it’s probably true, I don’t think you really realize it until it actually happens. So many people glamorize life with a newborn or make it seem way easier than it is. Maybe that’s the case for some lucky mamas, but the truth is it’s a lot of work, a lot of hard work. There are days where I’m just totally exhausted and I haven’t even left the house. I know some of you have multiple kids, and they’re older than Augustine’s young 6 months, but I’m pretty sure each stage is full of its own challenges. Someone told me it’s more challenging physically at the age we’re in right now. You’re sleep-deprived and trying to figure out this new uncharted motherhood territory one step at a time. But then you go from being physically exhausted to a stage where you’re mentally exhausted, constantly worrying about every single decision you make {schooling, how to parent, etc.}. Without a doubt, life is different now. In the hardest of ways, and also the best of ways. Today I’m talking about how life has changed for us since having a baby.

How Life Has Changed for Us Since Having a Baby

Your Time is No Longer Your Own

That’s a given right? But really life isn’t about you anymore. You have a little baby that should always be first and foremost. While self-care is definitely important, it usually comes second to the needs of a baby, as it should. I’ve frequently had to say no to things based off of Augustine’s schedule. I know there are times where a schedule doesn’t always work but if I know that Augustine takes a nap from 1-2 every day, I won’t plan something that overlaps with it. For me, it’s most important that Augustine gets the rest he needs as a growing baby. When he skips naps he ends up getting overly tired and fussy, and that usually means a rough night and following day for the both of us. So if I can help it, I’ll schedule things around the times that are best for him. Also, I used to always be on time or a little early. Now I’m very rarely early. Usually, I’m right on time, or 5-10 minutes late. Getting out of the house takes a lot longer now. Gone are the days where I could just grab my keys and run out the door. I try to manage expectations beforehand though and tell people they can expect me within a certain window of time. I think that helps and makes me feel a little better!

How Things Have Changed for Us Since Having a Babytaking augustine on a walk little_baby_hands

Simple Tasks Will Take You Twice as Long

There are days where Matthew gets home from work and the dishes aren’t done, the folded clothes aren’t put away, and the trash is overflowing. You’d think these are tasks which I could finish quite easily. Unfortunately with a baby you usually only have one hand free. When Augustine is playing on his playmat I can tidy up here and there but I really can’t get that much done. Just folding the laundry seems like a success. During his naps, I’ll try to do the basic things, like eating a meal and getting dressed. As a result, the cleaning usually gets put on the back burner.

taking a family walk love this stroller organizer Augustine going for a Walk

You’re Always Preparing for a Meltdown when You’re Out in Public

Don’t let that sweet face fool you! Augustine is definitely capable of a meltdown. I feel like I always have an exit plan when I’m out with him, especially when I’m alone. I choose the shortest line at the grocery store, bring a toy to keep him entertained and try to get in and out as quickly as possible. Going out to eat is no longer a carefree experience, either. When Matthew and I go out, we like restaurants where we can pay up front, just in case! I know we’ll get to the point where it’s easier, but right now it’s just a little stressful.

cute stroller fox toy love this chic brown diaper backpack augustine in stroller

You Try to Fit Your Adult Life in the Hours after Bedtime

Once Augustine is asleep for the night, I feel like I have a lot more freedom. I know I have at least 2 1/2-3 hours before he’s up, so that means I can enjoy a dinner with Matthew, post an Instagram, paint my nails, do a face mask, and watch a TV show {if I’m lucky}. Usually, though I’m fitting in my 9 to 5 job from 7pm to midnight, and putting away those folded clothes!

family walk - M Loves M afternoon walk with baby

You Smile a Lot More and Feel an Incredible Amount of Joy

No one wants to wake up multiple times in the middle of the night or start the day at 5 am, but all it takes is seeing that baby look at you and smile to make it totally worthwhile. You realize that you would do anything for this tiny little person, no matter how tired you are. The funny thing is, I look forward to bedtime so that I can get all these tasks crossed off my list, but I really end up missing that guy more than anything. I watch him sleeping on the monitor and I could spend all night looking through photos of him on my phone. You have this deep love for this little person that’s indescribable. Somehow life feels so much more complete.

walking with baby in the stokke xplory

The things I love about the stage we’re in are seeing Augustine smile, reach for us to be held, grab on to our fingers tightly, and babble and make funny noises. We go on nightly walks before bedtime with Ginger and it’s become the outing I look forward to most. We get some fresh air, talk about our day, and soak up some Vitamin D. Since Augustine is now sitting up on his own we can finally use our Stokke XPlory stroller, which I’m so excited about! This is such a cool stroller because Augustine sits a lot higher up than typical strollers and can really see what’s going on around him. It’s perfect for adventures and exploring! When we’re out and about I also love using this Skip Hop stroller organizer. It holds my water bottle, phone, keys, and even some small toys. It’s definitely a must have! We always bring the Milkbarn Stroller Blanket with us in case it gets chilly in the evenings. It has foxes on it, so it matches our Skip Hop Fox Stroller Toy perfectly! Augustine loves to play with this stroller toy. I think foxes are becoming his favorite animal, after dogs that is!

Happy Monday everyone! Thanks so much for stopping by!



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More Motherhood Posts: Augustine’s 6 Month Update + Augustine’s Sleep Situation6 Things I Didn’t Realize About Having a Baby

photos by Kimber Brown

  • Aww you all look way too cute, what an adorable family shooting Mara! <3 xo
    (P.S: It was Vanilla tea for me this morning! 😉 )

  • Rach

    I bet life has changed, but it seems like you are doing a great job Mara!!

    • Thank you so much Rach! I really and truly appreciate that!!

  • Kelly

    Omg, so true! I’m a new mom myself to a six month old and no one can prepare you for how hard it is, but it truly is the most rewarding job their is. All it takes is their smile to forget about all the challenges that come with having a baby. I’m sure one day we’ll look back on this time and miss it!

    • aw I know we will!! It’s crazy how fast it’s going by, isn’t it?!

  • This post and pictures are so fabulous. You all look so happy and peaceful. It looks like these changes made you happier despite all the new responsibilities.

  • Michelle Joseph

    Awww Mara! You are such a wonderful person. It was Mother’s Day in the UK yesterday so Happy Mother’s Day to you (even though I know it’s not yet in the US haha).
    I’ve made a mental note of all that you’ve said and I will defo make sure that when I’m ready to have a baby I will keep all of these in mind… or just save it in my Bloglovin’ collections ha.
    Have a great day!

    Mich x

    • aww I didn’t know it was Mother’s Day in the UK! So cool!! Yes, when the time comes you can always email me!!

  • It’s definitely not easy. But all the joy worth it tho. Thank you for sharing, babe!

    Shall We Sasa

    • The joy makes it all so incredibly worth it! Thanks for reading Sasa!!

  • Allegra Liu

    Always have an exit strategy, lol. Great post and so true. It does get easier as they grow older and go through different stages. I think part of it is your confidence grows and you realize you, your partner and your child will work things out together. Also nothing lasts forever which is nice to remember when things are rough.

    • yes! My mom would always say once you’re tired/burnt out of one stage it’s changed and you’re on to another.

  • Awe you guys are such a cute family! I get really nervous about having kids because I can’t imagine not sleeping very much but I guess you just deal with it when it happens

    • you totally do! I LOVE sleep (used to get 10-11 hours a night) but you just adjust. And it gets better and easier!

  • He’s absolutely beautiful Mara! It’s true that so many things change and each stage definitely comes with its own set of challenges! But it really is such a gift. You’ll be so happy to have these posts to look back on as time goes on.

    Heidi || Wishes & Reality

    • thanks so much Heidi!! I think so too!! It’s so nice to be able to document and remember this time!

  • jen

    So spot on! We learned to always allow 10 more minutes to do things (like get up earlier, leave the house earlier etc.) Augustine is adorable!

    • yes! That was one I forgot to mention. We’re never early anymore. Either on time or 15 minutes late haha!

  • Carrie Colbert

    Such a wonderful post!

    Hey – btw – do you like your stroller? So confused on what stroller to get! Xo


    • Yes I love this one!! It is so smooth and we always get compliments on it!

  • Lex

    This is such a great post, I am expecting and I am just so overwhelmed by how much my life is going to change! I am both excited, and nervous.

    Random question, how long did you wait to take your little out of the house after he was born?

    xoxo Lex // LexMeetsWorld

    • Hey Lex!! You’re in for an amazing adventure! I’m so excited for you! If you have any questions definitely feel free to email me! After Augustine was born we really tried to stay put as much as we could for the first 3 months, besides dr appointments. I was really worried about him getting sick, which unfortunately he did around 4 months. It’s hard to avoid but it’s really awful to deal with, especially at the beginning!

  • Jonilyn Brown

    I totally feel you, Mara! Life with a newborn is totally life rocking! It’s funny, people always tell me that I make it look so easy, but it’s totally hard behind closed doors! It does get a little easier (in a way) as they grow older! Oh, and I wanted to ask you about your diaper backpack? Do you like it? I remember you talking about it during our walk a few weeks ago.. it’s super cute!

    • yes!! I love it! It has a lot of great compartments and it’s so much nicer to be hands free!! And you do make it look easy! Your little ones are so sweet!!

  • Yes, so much truth in this! I, too, am always expecting a meltdown, which is silly since it’s never happened. Haha. But I brace for it and have learned to grocery shop and run errands faster than ever before. I am so thankful we were a bit older (relatively speaking) when we had Asher (my son is 6 months next week) because I think it would have been really hard to adjust to the loss of that freedom of time and leisure if we hadn’t had plenty of it leading up to his arrival. But we’re blessed to feel like we can embrace this season, especially seeing already just how fast it goes by!

    • I couldn’t agree more! I’m so happy Matthew and I had our time together before baby. We were married for over 5 years with just the two of us so lots of time to travel and do what we wanted. This is a new season of life but one we’ve been ready for! And it is already going by way too fast!!

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