10 Things To Do To Turn Around a Bad Day

September 12, 2017


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Some days you’re just in a funk and you can’t figure out what’s causing it, or find a way to get out of it. Over the weekend I had one of those days. I was frustrated and annoyed for no good reason. Usually, when I have bad days I can kind of mope around and be on my own. Matthew knows to stay far away from me! But when you have a baby, you desperately want to snap out of your bad mood so that it doesn’t affect them. The last thing I want is for Augustine to pick up on anything negative from me, get stressed out, or feel nervous and afraid. So before I let my bad mood get to me, I went through my list of things that usually cheer me up. Luckily a few of them worked! If any of you are struggling to snap out of a bad mood, hopefully this post will help cheer you up!

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Before I talk about my bad day busters, let’s chat this outfit! This green dress was one I tried on during my big shopping trip the other month. You guys, I LOVE it! I got a Small but it’s a little loose naturally. I love the easy silhouette and the built-in slip dress. This dress is super cute and while you can for sure make it work with heels, I love it with these backless loafers. This was a shoe trend I was kinda eh about for awhile, but I got this pair and completely love them. The quality is so so good. I’m always looking for comfortable flats for running around, so I know this pair will be my go-to in fall!

a versatile brown leather crossbody bag

I paired the dress with this embroidered denim jacket. You all know love a good denim jacket. This one is my new fave though because of the perfect floral embroidery. Best update to a classic I’ve seen in awhile!

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10 Things To Do To Turn Around a Bad Day

Get outside– This seems like an obvious one but it’s so easy to get caught up in our heads while sitting inside all day. Getting fresh air and sunshine helps me clear my thoughts and get outside of myself a bit. This is one that usually always does the trick. It’s also great with kids since they will have some distraction too!

Unplug– This is a huge one and helps so much. When you’re in a bad mood, scrolling through social media and seeing everyone else’s “happiness” can be a bummer. Whether they are happy or it’s a social media facade, it definitely will not help your mood to consume your mind with what other people are doing. Unplugging helps turn our focus towards other things.

Workout {or go for a walk}- There are a lot of studies that show working out helps get your blood and endorphins going. This trick is similar to getting outside, so whether you work out at a gym or outside, moving and getting out of the house is a huge help. My workouts with Augustine usually involve a stroller jog and I love that it ends up turning into a fun outing for both of us!

Watch a feel-good movie/TV show– If you have the time to watch a movie, do it. It’s nice to have your mind focus on a feel-good movie when you’re in a bad mood. I used to always watch Friends episodes when I was in a bad mood and it seemed to help me a lot. You can check out some of the best feel-good movies here. Do you have any favorites??

Take a shower {or bath}- Sometimes you just need to take a shower and feel clean. This is another tactic to clear your mind and headspace. I usually feel a lot better after taking a nice long shower or bath.

Watch funny videos– This goes hand-in-hand with a feel-good movie but in a way to purposefully laugh. Sometimes you just need to laugh at dumb things. My favorites are old SNL skits. I always end up in tears laughing so much!

Bake– This is a personal preference, of course, but I always love to bake. It’s one of my favorite hobbies and I find that baking cookies, even if I end up giving them to a friend, always makes me feel better. But you all know me. If I’m making cookies, I’m eating them! Pair them warm out of the oven with a feel-good movie, and you have a great combo! That usually always cheers me up!

Have a self-spa night– Giving yourself some TLC is important whether you’re in a bad mood or not. There’s something soothing about putting a mask on my face or even just taking the time to put on lotion and paint my nails. I definitely recommend a self-spa night because we all need to show ourselves a little more love and attention, especially when we’re feeling down. “Me time” is especially important for the mamas out there!

De-clutter- Cleaning or re-arranging furniture is a fun activity that acts as both a distraction but also an opportunity to clean. De-cluttering helps clear out the space you’re living in, as well as your mind. I always feel better after cleaning up. On Sunday I did a bunch of cleaning in my office and it felt so good!

Put your thoughts on paper- Another good tactic I use when fighting a bad mood is journaling. If you all remember, I started my blog to be an online journal way back in 2009. This blog was just intended for me and Matthew, and while I still journal a bit with you all, and tell you how I’m feeling, I have created another space where I can just write for myself. Even if I’m upset about something dumb and trivial, putting it down on paper gives me a lot of clarity. In my opinion, you should allow yourself to feel frustrated and annoyed about things, no matter what they are. Your thoughts and feelings are valid and are worth addressing. Even if you rip up the paper afterward and throw it away, getting your feelings out on paper can be so cathartic. Similarly, I think it can be so helpful to also write down your blessings. This helps me shift my mind to think about all the good that exists in my life.

For quick 1 minute fixes try: smiling, force yourself to laugh, smell calming scents {love my essential oils for this!}, or saying a prayer!

I also wanted to disclaim that sometimes these strategies don’t always work and there isn’t a quick fix for every bad mood. Some bad moods just take longer to break and that’s okay! Give yourself the time you need and eventually, you’ll feel better!

I hope this post was helpful and inspiring for you all! If you have any bad mood busters that you rely on, let me know below. As much as I would love to never have another bad day, I know they’re a natural part of life and they can’t be avoided. But hopefully, these tips will shorten their lifespan and give them less control.



dress {also in floral!} . shoes {also in solid colors!} . jacket . vintage bag from our honeymoon {similar bag} . sunglasses . link braceletbracelets .

photos by Priscilla Frey

  • Natali

    First of all, you’re looking gorgeous as always! I think that this is a perfect transitional look and I could easily
    picture myself wearing something similar in Fall! 🙂
    Secondly, you’re so right with all of the tips on how to turn around a bad day. I just need bit stronger “self talk” on a
    bad day and remind myself of those things which I can do to get to feel better because it’s so easy to just fall into a
    bad day vibe and spend a day into nothing.


    • Thanks Natali!! I need to do better about stronger self talk and getting myself out of these funks. Hope you have a great weekend!

  • Rach

    That dress is so cute on you! I love that you layered it with a denim jacket! I also agree with all the 10 things you listed! Getting outside, unplugging, and spa-night helps me out tremendously!


    • thank you Rach!! I love wearing dresses with denim jackets. I love that this one looks a little different too!

  • Paige Cassandra Flamm

    I live for decluttering and cleaning. I feel so much less stress and pressure when my house is cleaned and clutter free.

    • honestly Paige, I think decluttering and cleaning help me SO much!! I feel like my mind is a mess because my house (and inbox) is a mess. I need to find a way to simplify, and unsubscribe from all the spam emails 😉

  • that outfit looks so comfy and stylish at the same time. love it!

    a lot of these are helpful for me, especially going for a walk or praying. (or both at the same time) but I like the idea of writing things down. that seems really therapeutic and safe 🙂

    • yes yes yes! Prayer walks are so good, especially when you’re somewhere in nature. Yesterday I went for a walk by our house and I got to look up and see the big trees and birds flying around. It definitely helped me appreciate this world we live in a little bit more!

  • First of all, I am in LOVE with this outfit. The emerald green color looks so beautiful on you, and I love how you paired it with the denim jacket and loafers! I agree with so many of these ideas. For me, working out, getting outside and journaling make the biggest difference. Baking something never hurts either 😉

    Mia | http://www.verymuchmia.com

    • aw yay! Thank you so much Mia!! I’m really happy you like it!! My plan is to do all of those things this weekend! Sometimes life just feels crowded so I want to simplify a little bit too 🙂 I think that would help!

  • Hi darling it’s been a while since the last time i commented! First you look absolutely gorgeous in these photos and i love that jacket! Also i’m oh too familiar with bad days and my favorite tips are definitely to go out, watch a feel good movie and cook! Basically doing things that make me feel good, proud and happy! Lovely post as usual sweet Mara! xo

    • aw thank you so much Melodie!! And I love that idea of feeling good, proud and happy. Such a good focus!!

  • Watching movies is my number one way to get out of a bad mood. I let my mind drift of fairy land and fantasise, but lately I’ve been loving working out. I recently joined a gym and I think it’s one of the best decisions I ever made. I can understand why people become workout junkies. I feel so accomplished after every class.

    Mich x

    • yes I love watching movies too!! I know you’re a movie buff like me 😉 It’s nice to have another world to focus on for a little bit. I need to get back into workout classes. I think that would be really good for me too. Have a great weekend Mich!!

  • These are great suggestion! I also like looking at my favorite pictures on our Apple TV. Seeing cherished memories of vacations and family get togethers always makes me smile 🙂 http://www.chasingbelle.com

    • oh I love that idea!! Family photos definitely make me smile too. Thanks Jessie!

  • Song Ebbesen

    Writing is my go to de-stress strategy. For some reason, putting my thoughts on a page makes them seem smaller than they are, or almost like it’s just a story! And baking. is. therapy. But now I want to eat cookies and binge watch all day! Lovely post (:

    Song xx

    • I totally agree! Something so cathartic about putting words on a page. Hopefully you won’t have to reference this post too often but sometimes you need a good cookies and binge TV day 😉

  • I literally had one of these days yesterday!
    Nothing I did could shake the bad mood feeling. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m about to start my period— or I’m just having one of those weeks where everything irritates me! (maybe both? haha!)

    I am definitely going to take a bath tonight + watch a show, I’m thinking The Office. These are great ideas Mara!


    • I hope you were able to get over your funky mood Krystal! They’re always so tough and annoying. But bath + The Office sounds perfect!!

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